{"id":8048,"date":"2023-10-10T06:23:54","date_gmt":"2023-10-09T23:23:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/?p=8048"},"modified":"2023-10-10T06:23:54","modified_gmt":"2023-10-09T23:23:54","slug":"watch-out-for-these-mental-traps-in-a-toxic-family-dynamic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/?p=8048","title":{"rendered":"Watch Out For These Mental Traps In A Toxic Family Dynamic"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script><br \/>\n<br \/><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/mindbodygreen-res.cloudinary.com\/image\/upload\/c_crop,x_0,y_0,w_1700,h_956\/c_fill,w_700,h_400,g_auto,q_85,fl_lossy,f_jpg\/org\/1fsph3swqku7dd6n4.jpg\" \/><\/p>\n<div end=\"false\">\n<p>People in toxic one-on-one relationships often tell me that this isn\u2019t their first\u2014it mirrors their family-of-origin. Statements like, \u201cMy partner is the male version of my mother,\u201d or, \u201cI am dating a version of my father,\u201d often emerge, because of<a href=\"https:\/\/www.perpetuaneo.com\/familiar-comfortable-relationships\/?__cf_chl_tk=Pq2qE67yfvmSlbO6wm4w0jiNbCfP3NDTitZuMbBgGP0-1696868682-0-gaNycGzNFvs\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"mbg-track-event\" data-track-event-types=\"click\" data-track-type=\"article-link\" data-track-prop-element-id=\"in-body-link\" data-track-prop-label=\"page_type | element_id\" data-track-prop-category=\"Link\" data-track-prop-link=\"https:\/\/www.perpetuaneo.com\/familiar-comfortable-relationships\/?__cf_chl_tk=Pq2qE67yfvmSlbO6wm4w0jiNbCfP3NDTitZuMbBgGP0-1696868682-0-gaNycGzNFvs\" rel=\"noopener\"> repetition compulsion<\/a>, where the mind tries to heal from trauma by entering similar situations.<\/p>\n<p>While some clients have long escaped their toxic families-of-origin, others find it harder. It doesn\u2019t matter your age or how accomplished you are\u2014some families are incredibly powerful in terms of their wealth and resources, and ability to mobilize the larger family to keep you under their thumb. I see these especially amplified in my adult clients from high net worth families. The common denominator is that you&#8217;re left exhausted, confused, and discombobulated.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Why, you ask? Because a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/articles\/toxic-families\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"mbg-track-event\" data-track-event-types=\"click\" data-track-type=\"article-link\" data-track-prop-element-id=\"in-body-link\" data-track-prop-label=\"page_type | element_id\" data-track-prop-category=\"Link\" data-track-prop-link=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/articles\/toxic-families\" rel=\"noopener\">toxic family<\/a> needs different people to play different roles. One of which is, the scapegoat.\u00a0This scapegoat is blamed for everything, and their triumphs and history are erased away. And if need be, a toxic family keeps the scapegoat the same, preventing them from leaving, rather than cultivating a new one.<\/p>\n<p>Leaving such a toxic family isn\u2019t just a matter of willpower (actually, nothing is merely due to willpower), but rather recognizing and healing from the longstanding damage inflicted and compounded, being clear with yourself, and having a wise strategy.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>And while you can understand plenty of things logically, it is until they sink in emotionally that you <em>get<\/em> it\u2014and part of that starts with being <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/articles\/emotional-manipulation\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"mbg-track-event\" data-track-event-types=\"click\" data-track-type=\"article-link\" data-track-prop-element-id=\"in-body-link\" data-track-prop-label=\"page_type | element_id\" data-track-prop-category=\"Link\" data-track-prop-link=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/articles\/emotional-manipulation\" rel=\"noopener\">emotionally familiar with the cognitive traps<\/a> that keep you mired.\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div data-type=\"_mgwidget\" data-widget-id=\"1675549\">\r\n<\/div>\r\n<script>(function(w,q){w[q]=w[q]||[];w[q].push([\"_mgc.load\"])})(window,\"_mgq\");\r\n<\/script>\r\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>People in toxic one-on-one relationships often tell me that this isn\u2019t their first\u2014it mirrors their family-of-origin. Statements like, \u201cMy partner is the male version of my mother,\u201d or, \u201cI am dating a version of my father,\u201d often emerge, because of repetition compulsion, where the mind tries to heal from trauma by entering similar situations. While &hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[175],"class_list":["post-8048","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-lifestyle","tag-toxic-relationships"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8048","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=8048"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8048\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=8048"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=8048"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=8048"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}