{"id":7888,"date":"2023-10-03T18:41:04","date_gmt":"2023-10-03T11:41:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/?p=7888"},"modified":"2023-10-03T18:41:04","modified_gmt":"2023-10-03T11:41:04","slug":"adhd-in-a-relationship-what-if-both-people-have-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/?p=7888","title":{"rendered":"ADHD in a Relationship: What if Both People Have It?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<aside class=\"post-share hidden md:flex justify-center relative bg-transparent text-justify bottom-0 md:bottom-auto left-[20px] right-0 md:right-auto z-10\" data-module-init=\"post-share\">\n      <a class=\"post-share__button inline-block mx-[4px] py-[11px] text-center text-gray no-underline leading-4 border-0\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.wellandgood.com%2Fhaving-adhd-in-relationship%2F\" data-vars-event=\"Facebook\" data-vars-info=\"\/having-adhd-in-relationship\/\" rel=\"noopener\"><br \/>\n      <span class=\"text-sm sm:text-base icon-facebook\"\/><br \/>\n      <spann class=\"visually-hidden\">Share on facebook<\/spann><br \/>\n    <\/a><br \/>\n      <a class=\"post-share__button inline-block mx-[4px] py-[11px] text-center text-gray no-underline leading-4 border-0\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/share?text=You%2C%20Me%2C%20and%20ADHD%3A%20How%20Dating%20Someone%20Else%20With%20ADHD%20Made%20Me%20More%20Sensitive%20Toward%20My%20Own%20Struggles%E2%80%94And%20More%20Aware%20of%20My%20Strengths%20via%20%40iamwellandgood&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.wellandgood.com%2Fhaving-adhd-in-relationship%2F\" data-vars-event=\"Twitter\" data-vars-info=\"\/having-adhd-in-relationship\/\" rel=\"noopener\"><br \/>\n      <span class=\"text-sm sm:text-base icon-twitter\"\/><br \/>\n      <spann class=\"visually-hidden\">Share on twitter<\/spann><br \/>\n    <\/a><br \/>\n      <a class=\"post-share__button inline-block mx-[4px] py-[11px] text-center text-gray no-underline leading-4 border-0\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/pinterest.com\/pin\/create\/link\/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.wellandgood.com%2Fhaving-adhd-in-relationship%2F&amp;description=You%2C%20Me%2C%20and%20ADHD%3A%20How%20Dating%20Someone%20Else%20With%20ADHD%20Made%20Me%20More%20Sensitive%20Toward%20My%20Own%20Struggles%E2%80%94And%20More%20Aware%20of%20My%20Strengths&amp;media=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.wellandgood.com%2Fwp-content%2Fuploads%2F2023%2F09%2FWG_MindsIssue_Editorial_You-Me-and._feature-620x358.jpg\" data-vars-event=\"Pinterest\" data-vars-info=\"\/having-adhd-in-relationship\/\" rel=\"noopener\"><br \/>\n      <span class=\"text-sm sm:text-base icon-pinterest-p\"\/><br \/>\n      <spann class=\"visually-hidden\">Share on pinterest<\/spann><br \/>\n    <\/a><br \/>\n      <a class=\"post-share__button inline-block mx-[4px] py-[11px] text-center text-gray no-underline leading-4 border-0\" href=\"mailto:?subject=You%2C%20Me%2C%20and%20ADHD%3A%20How%20Dating%20Someone%20Else%20With%20ADHD%20Made%20Me%20More%20Sensitive%20Toward%20My%20Own%20Struggles%E2%80%94And%20More%20Aware%20of%20My%20Strengths&amp;body=Who%20knew%20ADHD%20could%20be%20a%20third%20wheel%3F%20https%3A%2F%2Fwww.wellandgood.com%2Fhaving-adhd-in-relationship%2F\" data-vars-event=\"Email\" data-vars-info=\"\/having-adhd-in-relationship\/\"><br \/>\n      <span class=\"text-sm sm:text-base icon-paper-plane\"\/><br \/>\n      <spann class=\"visually-hidden\">Share on email<\/spann><br \/>\n    <\/a><br \/>\n  <\/aside>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> \u201cBabe? &#8230;<em>Babe! <\/em>Have you seen the box cutter?\u201d My boyfriend calls out the question from the other side of our Brooklyn apartment, frantically opening cabinets and drawers. I sigh, head to the kitchen, and guide him over to the island. Pulling out the top counter drawer next to the sink, I say, \u201cHere it is; I started keeping it in here, remember?\u201d He smiles, gives me a kiss, and thanks me.<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> The thing is, he <em>doesn\u2019t<\/em> remember. He doesn\u2019t remember our previous conversation, and he doesn\u2019t remember that one day, months ago, during a frenzied cleaning spell, I had decided that the always-in-demand-yet-always-missing box cutter now belongs in the kitchen. My brilliant boyfriend <em>does<\/em>, however, remember the last time he used the tool. He can even recall the exact spot wherehe left it last: inside of a tool belt slung atop our foldable ladder in the office closet.<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> My boyfriend and I moved in together six months ago, and we bothhave attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), a neurodevelopmental chronic condition that can affect attention span, mood, memory, and productivity. But while he was diagnosed with the condition at a young age and has lived nearly his entire life knowing he is a neurodivergent person, my diagnosis came later in life, as is often the case for <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/adhd-add-in-women\/\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/adhd-add-in-women\/\">adult women with ADHD<\/a>.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> During a routine physical exam six years ago, at age 22\u2014about a year into dating my boyfriend\u2014I expressed my frustrations to my doctor about how difficult it was for me to pay attention in college and remember simple instructions at work. At the time, I was a water park manager and often had to balance pool chemicals and provide first aid to pool-goers; I couldn\u2019t afford to forget even the smallest of steps.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> A <a href=\"https:\/\/add.org\/adhd-test\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/add.org\/adhd-test\/\">short quiz<\/a> and a few probing questions later, my doctor presented me with my ADHD diagnosis, which explained why life seemed <em>so <\/em>much more difficult for me than it did for others.<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> Near immediately, my diagnosis provided some helpful clarity about why I operate the way I do\u2014like why I <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/replying-late-to-texts\/\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/replying-late-to-texts\/\">chronically reply late to texts<\/a> and get such <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/new-study-shows-a-correlation-between-adhd-and-poor-sleep\/\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/new-study-shows-a-correlation-between-adhd-and-poor-sleep\/\">poor sleep<\/a>. But also, it opened up a completely new can of worms in regard to my relationship.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> In the year prior to that exam, before my boyfriend and I moved in together and, thus, led separate lives, in separate apartments with separate schedules, small miscommunications and forgotten appointments (on both ends) seemed normal and inconsequential. But with my new diagnosis and a fresh understanding of our <em>shared<\/em> symptoms, I began to question whether a dual-ADHD partnership would be feasible long-term. Time proved it was indeed possible.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> Once the COVID-19 pandemic began to wane in 2022, we decided to live together, prompting new questions about how we\u2019d cohabitate. Navigating life alone with ADHD was already a battle; how would my ADHD boyfriend and I manage sharing a household?<\/p>\n<div class=\"premium-article-media-columns block-wide min-h-[400px] py-5 w-full flex flex-col justify-center font-serif mt-[58px] mb-[40px]\">\n<div class=\"flex flex-col md:flex-row w-full gap-[18px] md:gap-[37px] lg:gap-[48px] xl:gap-[54px] md:items-center\">\n<figure class=\"w-full md:w-1\/2 m-0\">\n<div class=\"image-2021 overflow-hidden h-0 relative\" style=\"padding-bottom: 146.03174603175%;\"> <picture><source data-srcset=\" https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/TwoColumnMedia1_756x1104_true_75.webp 756w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/TwoColumnMedia1_907x1325_true_75.webp 907w, https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/TwoColumnMedia1_756x1104_true_75.webp 756w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/TwoColumnMedia1_907x1325_true_75.webp 907w, https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/TwoColumnMedia1_756x1104_true_75.webp 756w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/TwoColumnMedia1_907x1325_true_75.webp 907w,\" srcset=\"\" sizes=\" (max-width:640px) 756px,  (max-width:768px) 756px,  756px\"\/><img class=\"image-2021__img block left-0 top-0 object-cover w-full !h-full min-h-full inset-0 lazy !absolute\" alt=\"\" fetchpriority=\"auto\" data-module-init=\"image-2021\" data-module-immediate=\"\" data-is-vue=\"\"\/> <\/picture> <\/div><figcaption class=\"text-center text-gray-light text-[13px] leading-[20px]\"> <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<figure class=\"w-full md:w-1\/2 m-0\">\n<div class=\"image-2021 overflow-hidden h-0 relative\" style=\"padding-bottom: 146.03174603175%;\"> <picture><source data-srcset=\" https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/TwoColumnMedia2_756x1104_true_75.webp 756w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/TwoColumnMedia2_907x1325_true_75.webp 907w, https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/TwoColumnMedia2_756x1104_true_75.webp 756w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/TwoColumnMedia2_907x1325_true_75.webp 907w, https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/TwoColumnMedia2_756x1104_true_75.webp 756w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/TwoColumnMedia2_907x1325_true_75.webp 907w,\" srcset=\"\" sizes=\" (max-width:640px) 756px,  (max-width:768px) 756px,  756px\"\/><img class=\"image-2021__img block left-0 top-0 object-cover w-full !h-full min-h-full inset-0 lazy !absolute\" alt=\"\" fetchpriority=\"auto\" data-module-init=\"image-2021\" data-module-immediate=\"\" data-is-vue=\"\"\/> <\/picture> <\/div><figcaption class=\"text-center text-gray-light text-[13px] leading-[20px]\"> <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<h2 class=\"next-core\/paragraph core-heading text-h2 block-thin\" style=\"\"> <strong>Uncovering my natural gifts and virtues through dating someone else with ADHD<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> While ADHD can manifest in dramatically different ways in any two given people, there are some <a href=\"https:\/\/www.additudemag.com\/neuroscience-of-adhd-brain\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.additudemag.com\/neuroscience-of-adhd-brain\/\">neurological commonalities<\/a> that can make a dual-ADHD partnership challenging, says clinical psychologist <a href=\"https:\/\/www.understood.org\/blog\/authors\/andy-kahn\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.understood.org\/blog\/authors\/andy-kahn\/\">Andrew Kahn<\/a>, PsyD, who was also diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and is now the associate director of behavior change and expertise at Understood.org, a nonprofit that provides informational resources for neurodivergent folks and people with learning disabilities. \u201cFor example, difficulties with forgetfulness, and keeping track of day-to-day things, like appointments, dates, and paying bills [tend to occur].\u201d And in a partnership where <em>both <\/em>people are managing these struggles, it can be doubly difficult to surmount them, he adds.<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> That\u2019s certainly been true in my relationship, especially since moving in with my boyfriend. While we split the household duties evenly, sometimes we get sidetracked during chores, our fickle attention spans pulling us away from the laundry and toward the television. Even though we hung up two shared monthly calendars in separate areas of our home, we still forget important dates and appointments. Sometimes those lapses are pretty inconsequential, like missing a dinner reservation; other times, they\u2019ve been figuratively or literally costly, like forgetting a parking ticket due-by date. Our shared struggles with sleep and proclivity to stay up late make sticking to a sleep schedule difficult. And, unlike in the quickly solved case of the box cutter, locating a simple household item can require a level of detective work that could rival that of Sherlock Holmes.<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> Despite these challenges, our home is also undeniably filled with love and magic. Our eclectic tastes have married nicely, and our apartment walls are covered with a mishmash of beautiful posters and vinyls we\u2019ve accumulated over the seven years we\u2019ve been together. Our similar thought patterns make our conversations particularly animated and exciting; in our shared home, away from the rest of the world, we\u2019re free to fire off ideas without worrying about interrupting strangers or feeling shameful about our (admittedly loud AF) outdoor voices.<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> Perhaps most poignantly, however, dating someone else with ADHD has pushed me to be gentler toward myself. Like my boyfriend, I sometimes forget things, missing an appointment here or leaving a text unread for days there. But recognizing these behaviors in both of us has allowed me to give myself grace. These things don\u2019t disprove or discredit our brilliance; rather, they\u2019re small facets of our full and multifaceted selves.<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> My boyfriend is clever, resilient, hilarious, kind, and curious\u2014not<em> in spite of <\/em>his ADHD mind, but because of it. And if that\u2019s true for him, well\u2026 maybe it\u2019s true for me, too. While I, like my boyfriend, have been known to struggle with seeing a task through to completion, I can also now recognize the passion and excitement we both have for new experiences. And yes, my ADHD makes me a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC4282137\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC4282137\/\">hypersensitive<\/a> person who cries at every <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=IO9d2PpP7tQ\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=IO9d2PpP7tQ\">SPCA commercial<\/a>, but also, this capacity for emotion helps me connect and empathize with my loved ones\u2014including my boyfriend.<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> \u201cFolks with ADHD can be so passionate,\u201d says Dr. Kahn. \u201cThey can be so creative, and they can create intrigue, and interest, and use that creativity to make their relationships really rich and really deep.\u201d I can say with certainty so much has been true of my own relationship. \u201cIt\u2019s exciting and great to have a car that can go that fast\u2014if you learn how to control it together,\u201d Dr. Kahn adds.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"next-core\/paragraph core-heading text-h2 block-thin\" style=\"\"> <strong>Learning to work through the challenges of managing a dual-ADHD partnership<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> In a dual-partnered relationship where both people have ADHD, \u201cyour partner is a mirror to you,\u201d says psychotherapist <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shermanoakstherapy.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.shermanoakstherapy.com\/\">Natalie Jambazian<\/a>, LMFT. Though there are certainly positives to that sentiment, the potential difficulties tend to surround issues of time management and forgetfulness, she says.<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> That\u2019s why proactivity and problem-solving are even <em>more <\/em>crucial for adults with ADHD who begin dating someone else with ADHD, says Jambazian. \u201cIt\u2019s important for both partners to be on the same page, and talk about tasks related to chores, finances, and what that looks like for each partner.\u201d These safeguards can keep folks with ADHD on track with work and home tasks, opening up space for the creativity and passion of an ADHD mind, she says.<\/p>\n<div class=\"block-medium font-serif py-5 w-full flex flex-col mt-[40px] md:mt-[56px] md-[24px] md:mb-[40px] justify-center items-center\" data-type=\"acf\/premium-article-image-quote\">\n<div class=\"flex flex-col w-full mx-auto justify-center ml:items-center\">\n<div class=\"ml:w-full gap-[18px] mb-[9px] flex flex-col ml:flex-row-reverse ml:-mx-[8px] xl:-mx-[9px]\">\n<div class=\"w-full ml:w-1\/2 text-center\">\n<div class=\"flex justify-center items-center h-full px-[23px] md:px-[73px] ml:px-[24px] py-[30px] min-h-[400px]\" style=\"background-color:#585dd2;color:var(--article-accent-color-2-text)\">\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-wg-quote block-thin flex flex-col relative mx-0 mb-0 p-0 !mt-[30px]\"><p><span class=\"text-quote !text-[95px] absolute top-[-10px] ml:top-[-30px] left-0 right-0 mx-auto\">\u201c<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"quote-quote text-center text-quote\">Doing it together means that you&#8217;re [both] agreeing to do this, you&#8217;re sharing the commitment, and you&#8217;re sharing the responsibility of making those kinds of changes<\/p>\n<p><cite class=\"quote-credit text-center text-big italic opacity-60\"> <\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"w-full ml:w-1\/2\">\n<figure class=\"w-full h-full m-0 max-h-[600x]\">\n<div class=\"image-2021 overflow-hidden h-0 relative\" style=\"height: 100%\"> <picture><source data-srcset=\" https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/Quotewimage_848x1062_true_75.webp 848w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/Quotewimage_1018x1274_true_75.webp 1018w, https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/Quotewimage_848x1062_true_75.webp 848w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/Quotewimage_1018x1274_true_75.webp 1018w, https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/Quotewimage_848x1062_true_75.webp 848w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/Quotewimage_1018x1274_true_75.webp 1018w,\" srcset=\"\" sizes=\" (max-width:640px) 848px,  (max-width:768px) 848px,  848px\"\/><img class=\"image-2021__img block left-0 top-0 object-cover w-full !h-full min-h-full inset-0 lazy\" alt=\"\" fetchpriority=\"auto\" data-module-init=\"image-2021\" data-module-immediate=\"\" data-is-vue=\"\"\/> <\/picture> <\/div>\n<\/figure><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> One way that two cohabitating ADHD partners can support each other in managing life admin is by creating shared systems, says Dr. Kahn. That means deciding together on a schedule for chores, on a process for remembering dates, on where to keep things, and so forth. This is why my drawer solution for the box cutter was never going to work; my boyfriend and I never decided <em>together<\/em> on the best place to store it; I had made the decision on my own.<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> \u201cDoing it together means that you&#8217;re [both] agreeing to do this, you&#8217;re sharing the commitment, and you&#8217;re sharing the responsibility of making those kinds of changes,\u201d says Dr. Kahn. \u201cFor a partner with ADHD, there&#8217;s a lot of monologues, there&#8217;s a lot of chaos, and there&#8217;s a lot of confusion\u2014and a lot of that can be settled down by creating shared rituals.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> Dr. Kahn notes that it can be helpful for both ADHD partners to recognize the areas where they especially struggle, and to build shared rituals around them. For my boyfriend and me, locating essential items has been a particular pain point, which is why Dr. Kahn suggests we work together to find a primary place for our keys, wallets, phones, and the like. \u201cJust consider how much that could spare you in terms of chaos and time spent looking for them,\u201d he says. \u201cSimple things like that can become contagious when you notice that they work.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> As I write this, our shared box cutter still occasionally floats around our home. Sometimes it\u2019ll appear in the drawer next to the sink, sometimes it\u2019ll show up under the couch. We have yet to find a permanent spot for it, but in the meantime, I\u2019ll be putting it safely back in the tool belt after I use it\u2014the same spot where I know my boyfriend will remember having left it.<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> <em>Citations<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> <em>Well+Good articles reference scientific, reliable, recent, robust studies to back up the information we share. You can trust us along your wellness journey.<\/em><\/p>\n<ol class=\"core-list block-thin premium-list premium-list-ordered\">\n<li><em>Shaw, Philip et al. \u201cEmotion dysregulation in attention deficit hyperactivity disorder.\u201d The American journal of psychiatry vol. 171,3 (2014): 276-93. doi:10.1176\/appi.ajp.2013.13070966<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ol><\/div>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><br \/>\n<br \/><div data-type=\"_mgwidget\" data-widget-id=\"1675549\">\r\n<\/div>\r\n<script>(function(w,q){w[q]=w[q]||[];w[q].push([\"_mgc.load\"])})(window,\"_mgq\");\r\n<\/script>\r\n<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on pinterest Share on email \u201cBabe? &#8230;Babe! Have you seen the box cutter?\u201d My boyfriend calls out the question from the other side of our Brooklyn apartment, frantically opening cabinets and drawers. I sigh, head to the kitchen, and guide him over to the island. 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