{"id":7511,"date":"2023-09-19T08:01:37","date_gmt":"2023-09-19T01:01:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/?p=7511"},"modified":"2023-09-19T08:01:37","modified_gmt":"2023-09-19T01:01:37","slug":"3-steps-to-avoid-defensive-with-your-partner-from-a-therapist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/?p=7511","title":{"rendered":"3 Steps To Avoid Defensive With Your Partner, From A Therapist"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script><br \/>\n<br \/><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/mindbodygreen-res.cloudinary.com\/image\/upload\/c_crop,x_0,y_0,w_1700,h_1100\/c_fill,w_700,h_400,g_auto,q_85,fl_lossy,f_jpg\/org\/ajet66x98ktajq37g.jpg\" \/><\/p>\n<div>\n<p>One of our challenges as individuals is to identify the particular triggers that make us want to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/articles\/fight-flight-freeze-fawn-trauma-responses\">fight, flee, freeze, or fawn<\/a> when we face potential conflict. 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