{"id":7259,"date":"2023-09-08T07:09:50","date_gmt":"2023-09-08T00:09:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/?p=7259"},"modified":"2023-09-08T07:09:50","modified_gmt":"2023-09-08T00:09:50","slug":"im-a-couples-therapist-this-is-a-common-relationship-hurdle","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/?p=7259","title":{"rendered":"I&#8217;m A Couples Therapist &#038; This Is A Common Relationship Hurdle"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script><br \/>\n<br \/><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/mindbodygreen-res.cloudinary.com\/image\/upload\/c_fill,w_700,h_400,g_auto,q_85,fl_lossy,f_jpg\/org\/bkwti7umjkq8dy6l2.jpg\" \/><\/p>\n<div>\n<p>I once worked with a couple who met when they were \u201cWWOOFers\u201d in New Zealand. These are people who travel around the world working on organic farms. This couple was united by their commitment to organic foods, sustainable practices, and creating a community of like-minded people. They <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/articles\/how-to-know-if-someone-is-your-soulmate\">felt they were soulmates<\/a> meant to be together.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>When we first meet someone\u2014especially when in the temporary glow of surging love hormones\u2014we are primed to notice all the ways we are alike, which creates a confirmation bias. We look for evidence to support this bias. We read the same favorite books as kids, have the same favorite films, and even both prefer New York-style pizza\u2014certainly a \u201csign.\u201d All soulmate proof, for sure.<\/p>\n<p>What this couple didn\u2019t talk about was how they wanted to live in the country, how the vegetables, herbs, and flowers would be arranged, and the ways they were going to manage the farm. They each had a different image in their heads, while speaking of what seemed a common dream.<\/p>\n<p>By the time they came to my office, they were <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/articles\/how-to-stop-an-argument-from-escalating\">arguing about everything<\/a>. Where they had once seen only similarities, all they saw were differences in pest management strategies and how to improve the soil. She wanted a farm where all the flowers, fruits, and vegetables intertwined (\u201cintercropping\u201d) and were planted among one another; he wanted strong lines separating each crop from the other.<\/p>\n<p>This divide showed up when they started to create their dream and discovered how different it looked to each of them. 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