{"id":6615,"date":"2023-08-17T17:08:01","date_gmt":"2023-08-17T10:08:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/?p=6615"},"modified":"2023-08-17T17:08:01","modified_gmt":"2023-08-17T10:08:01","slug":"a-neurologists-secret-to-maintaining-a-healthy-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/?p=6615","title":{"rendered":"A Neurologist&#8217;s Secret To Maintaining A Healthy Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script><br \/>\n<br \/><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/mindbodygreen-res.cloudinary.com\/image\/upload\/c_fill,w_700,h_400,g_auto,q_85,fl_lossy,f_jpg\/org\/pvwabog41lldxfwj6.jpeg\" \/><\/p>\n<div>\n<p>\u201cThe key is to compromise,\u201d he declares. This may or may not be a surprising factor to you, but it\u2019s a good reminder that the &#8220;secret sauce&#8221; of happy relationships is often the simplest principles of compassion and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/articles\/how-to-communicate-better-in-relationships\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"mbg-track-event\" data-track-event-types=\"click\" data-track-type=\"article-link\" data-track-prop-element-id=\"in-body-link\" data-track-prop-label=\"page_type | element_id\" data-track-prop-category=\"Link\" data-track-prop-link=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/articles\/how-to-communicate-better-in-relationships\" rel=\"noopener\">communication<\/a>.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Now, compromise doesn\u2019t mean abandoning your wants for the other person\u2019s desires entirely, but rather searching for a way to please both parties, whether it be in part or in whole. This way,\u00a0you both walk away feeling heard and acknowledged.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Relationship experts (and husband-wife duo) <a href=\"https:\/\/www.gottman.com\/about\/john-julie-gottman\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" class=\"mbg-track-event\" data-track-event-types=\"click\" data-track-type=\"article-link\" data-track-prop-element-id=\"in-body-link\" data-track-prop-label=\"page_type | element_id\" data-track-prop-category=\"Link\" data-track-prop-link=\"https:\/\/www.gottman.com\/about\/john-julie-gottman\/\">John Gottman, Ph.D., and Julie Gottman, Ph.D.<\/a>, founders of the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.gottman.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" class=\"mbg-track-event\" data-track-event-types=\"click\" data-track-type=\"article-link\" data-track-prop-element-id=\"in-body-link\" data-track-prop-label=\"page_type | element_id\" data-track-prop-category=\"Link\" data-track-prop-link=\"https:\/\/www.gottman.com\/\">Gottman Institute<\/a>, even echo the importance of compromise in a previous episode of the <a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/the-mindbodygreen-podcast\/id1246494475\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"mbg-track-event\" data-track-event-types=\"click\" data-track-type=\"article-link\" data-track-prop-element-id=\"in-body-link\" data-track-prop-label=\"page_type | element_id\" data-track-prop-category=\"Link\" data-track-prop-link=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/the-mindbodygreen-podcast\/id1246494475\" rel=\"noopener\">mindbodygreen podcast<\/a>; they have conducted research on couples for over two decades, so they certainly know what it takes to maintain a successful partnership.<\/p>\n<p>However, the Gottmans add a dynamic twist to the concept, adding that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/articles\/gottmans-say-couples-should-honor-their-differences\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"mbg-track-event\" data-track-event-types=\"click\" data-track-type=\"article-link\" data-track-prop-element-id=\"in-body-link\" data-track-prop-label=\"page_type | element_id\" data-track-prop-category=\"Link\" data-track-prop-link=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/articles\/gottmans-say-couples-should-honor-their-differences\" rel=\"noopener\">appreciation for differences<\/a> is just as important as the final compromise.\u00a0Meaning, don&#8217;t compromise and then resent your partner for their different desires\u2014actually appreciate their unique perspective.<\/p>\n<p>In courtship, John says, &#8220;We&#8217;re looking for somebody who&#8217;s really interesting and different than we are. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/articles\/gottmans-say-couples-should-honor-their-differences\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"mbg-track-event\" data-track-event-types=\"click\" data-track-type=\"article-link\" data-track-prop-element-id=\"in-body-link\" data-track-prop-label=\"page_type | element_id\" data-track-prop-category=\"Link\" data-track-prop-link=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/articles\/gottmans-say-couples-should-honor-their-differences\" rel=\"noopener\">[Relationships] go wrong<\/a> when\u2014after they get together and are in a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/articles\/how-to-choose-a-life-partner\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"mbg-track-event\" data-track-event-types=\"click\" data-track-type=\"article-link\" data-track-prop-element-id=\"in-body-link\" data-track-prop-label=\"page_type | element_id\" data-track-prop-category=\"Link\" data-track-prop-link=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/articles\/how-to-choose-a-life-partner\" rel=\"noopener\">committed relationship<\/a>\u2014they try to turn that person into them, and they become critical of the differences.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>To be fair, some differences are simple, like what you want for dinner or what you\u2019d like to do after a long workday, but others may call for extended attention to the topic before settling on a compromise.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Rather than assume the other party is wrong, allot time to discuss where your opinions come from and why they\u2019re important to you, so that you can create a healthy environment for discussion and compromise where it needs to happen.<\/p>\n<p>This will ensure you see the full picture and encourage you to understand the root of your differences. As a result, you may view those differences in a more favorable light and feel more confident with the compromises made.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div data-type=\"_mgwidget\" data-widget-id=\"1675549\">\r\n<\/div>\r\n<script>(function(w,q){w[q]=w[q]||[];w[q].push([\"_mgc.load\"])})(window,\"_mgq\");\r\n<\/script>\r\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cThe key is to compromise,\u201d he declares. 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