{"id":4220,"date":"2023-05-27T05:13:09","date_gmt":"2023-05-26T22:13:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/intuition-vs-being-judgemental-heres-the-difference\/"},"modified":"2023-05-27T05:13:09","modified_gmt":"2023-05-26T22:13:09","slug":"intuition-vs-being-judgemental-heres-the-difference","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/?p=4220","title":{"rendered":"Intuition vs. Being Judgemental: Here&#8217;s the Difference"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p> <span class=\"drop-cap__first text-dropcap \">T<\/span>rusting your gut has long been seen as imperfect and unreliable, a form of \u201cwoo-woo\u201d pseudoscience with no logical way of explaining the notion of a sixth sense and the boundaries between intuition vs. being judgemental feeling murky at best.<\/p>\n<p>But in recent years, research has proven the very real efficacy of gut instincts. <a href=\"https:\/\/journals.sagepub.com\/doi\/10.1177\/0956797616629403\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/journals.sagepub.com\/doi\/10.1177\/0956797616629403\">Studies show that pairing gut feelings with analytical thinking<\/a> leads to faster, more accurate decisions. And, the stomach isn\u2019t just called the \u201csecond brain\u201d by scientists because of anecdotal evidence. Roughly <a href=\"https:\/\/www.hopkinsmedicine.org\/health\/wellness-and-prevention\/the-brain-gut-connection\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.hopkinsmedicine.org\/health\/wellness-and-prevention\/the-brain-gut-connection\">100 million neurons line the digestive tract<\/a>, which is more than the neural network surrounding even the spinal cord.<\/p>\n<p>Although this is certainly good news for those who believe in the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/how-to-build-intuition\/\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/how-to-build-intuition\/\">power of intuition<\/a>\u2014successful <a href=\"https:\/\/www2.deloitte.com\/us\/en\/insights\/topics\/leadership\/ceo-decision-making-emotional-fortitude.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www2.deloitte.com\/us\/en\/insights\/topics\/leadership\/ceo-decision-making-emotional-fortitude.html\">CEOs and other top execs<\/a> claim to leverage it when handling crises, and major organizations <a href=\"https:\/\/time.com\/4721715\/phenomena-annie-jacobsen\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/time.com\/4721715\/phenomena-annie-jacobsen\/\">invest millions<\/a> in <a href=\"https:\/\/clicks.trx-hub.com\/xid\/leafgroup_ca5e0_wellgood?q=https%3A%2F%2Fgo.skimresources.com%3Fid%3D104860X1561639%26xs%3D1%26xcust%3DSTMSLS-1061295%26url%3Dhttps%253A%252F%252Fwww.linkedin.com%252Fpulse%252Fintuitive-edge-leveraging-intuition-transform-sarfiza-othman%252F&amp;p=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.wellandgood.com%2Fintuition-vs-being-judgemental%2F&amp;event_type=click\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/pulse\/intuitive-edge-leveraging-intuition-transform-sarfiza-othman\/\">helping professionals<\/a> refine intuitive skills\u2014growing acceptance of using your intuition as a guide (and subsequent real-world applications) have perhaps had an unwanted side effect: The more we feel capable of listening to\u2014and trusting\u2014our gut, the more we\u2019re poised to become, well, judgmental assholes. But where does a gut instinct end and a snap judgment begin?<\/p>\n<div class=\"related-content \" style=\"\" data-module-init=\"related-content\" data-module-immediate=\"\" v-cloak=\"\">\n<div class=\"related-content__wrapper \" v-cloak=\"\" :class=\"{'is-loaded':isLoaded}\">\n<p> <span class=\"inline pr-6 text-seafoam-dark\">Related Stories<\/span> <\/p>\n<p> <related-content class=\"related-content__links\" parent-article-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/intuition-vs-being-judgemental\/\" current-title=\"The Crucial Difference Between Trusting Your Gut and Being a Judgmental A-hole\" current-image=\"GettyImages-1386163451.jpg\" v-on:parsely-posts-loaded=\"onPostsLoaded\" start-date=\"2022-11-26\" tag=\"div\" inline-template=\"\" url=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/intuition-vs-being-judgemental\/\" secret=\"w5ztterVB03LGZJLfXS0hf3EvQBuFFIWew9hmVQxthU\" apikey=\"wellandgood.com\" limit=\"3\"> <\/p>\n<div>\n<div class=\"related-content__card mb-[10px] sm:mb-[20px]\" :class=\"{'related-content__card--full':posts.length === 1}\" v-for=\"(post, key) in posts\"> <a v-on:click.prevent=\"trackLinkGA($event, key)\" :href=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/intuition-vs-being-judgemental\/post.url\" data-url-source=\"related-content\" class=\"related-content__link\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"\"> <\/p>\n<div class=\"related-content__card--image bg-tan\" :style=\"{ backgroundImage: 'url(' + post.image_url + ')' }\"> <img :src=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/intuition-vs-being-judgemental\/post.image_url\" :alt=\"post.title\"\/> <\/div>\n<p> <\/a>  <\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p> <\/related-content> <\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<h2>Understanding the difference between intuition vs. being judgemental<\/h2>\n<p>\u201cTrusting your gut is often more of a feeling than a thought process,\u201d says licensed psychologist <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/jessicaleighphd\/?hl=en\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/jessicaleighphd\/?hl=en\">Jessica Rabon<\/a>, PhD. \u201cWe may feel uncomfortable on edge, or that something is off. In contrast, being judgmental is about forming an opinion or drawing a conclusion about the other person or situation, rather than how they are making <em>you<\/em> feel.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>So, whereas intuition may lead someone to say, \u201cI have a bad feeling about this person,\u201d judgment may lead them to verbalize, \u201cThis person is rude.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/dradiagooden.com\/\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/dradiagooden.com\/\">Adia Gooden<\/a>, PhD, licensed clinical psychologist, adds that judgment is often an additional layer people, particularly women, tack onto their intuition. \u201cTuning into your internal wisdom and intuition is often thought of as more feminine, and seen as emotional and irrational,\u201d says Dr. Gooden. \u201cWe often denigrate people for going off of their intuition alone, so I think these people have learned to justify it. So, if we went on a bad date, our gut was that it didn\u2019t feel right, but then we lay judgments on top of it. \u2018They showed up five minutes late, and the restaurant they chose was so basic, and the way they were dressed\u2026.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n<p>This often happens naturally, and subconsciously. You\u2019re likely doing it with your best friend, when they continue to date someone you see as a bad match. You\u2019re doing it with your coworker, when they force a meeting that could have been an email. You\u2019re doing it with the person in front of you in line at the coffee shop, as they give an overly complicated latte order to the barista, and to the stranger on the train, who is wearing something you find wholly inappropriate for the weather.<\/p>\n<p>But just as its more emotional cousin, intuition, has gotten a generally\u2014and unfairly\u2014bad rap, so has judgmental behavior. \u201cJudgments give us really rich information about our value system and what matters to us,\u201d says <a href=\"https:\/\/www.yourjourneythrough.com\/\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.yourjourneythrough.com\/\">Mary Beth Somich<\/a>, licensed therapist. \u201cWe live in a complex world where we have to make hundreds of judgment calls per day. They are necessary, and not inherently a bad thing.\u201d Dr. Rabon agrees: \u201cJudgment can help us navigate life, determine the friends we have, the relationships we get into, or the jobs we want to apply for.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s what we do with that judgment\u2014and how, according to Somich, \u201cit&#8217;s presented, delivered, or enforced\u201d\u2014that can become problematic. \u201cBeing overly judgmental can hold us back from experiencing things that could bring richness to our lives,\u201d she says. \u201cIt can contribute to discrimination or hate, and it can <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/intuition-vs-anxiety\/\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/intuition-vs-anxiety\/\">exacerbate or fuel anxiety<\/a> and fear that negatively impacts the mental health and happiness of others and ourselves.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>That latter point is a big one, Dr. Rabon says. \u201cWhen we overly judge others, when we\u2019re overly critical, we actually harm ourselves,\u201d she says. \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC3724923\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC3724923\/\">Our brain becomes more attuned to finding the negative<\/a> in others, thus leading us to find more negatives in ourselves.\u201d She has seen this lead to increased stress, anxiety, and depression.<\/p>\n<h2>What to do when your judgments hurt more than help<\/h2>\n<h3>1. Pay attention to what triggers your judgmental behavior.<\/h3>\n<p>\u201cThe first step to being less judgmental is to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/signs-low-self-awareness\/\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/signs-low-self-awareness\/\">increase your self-awareness<\/a> about your judgments,\u201d says Dr. Rabon. She recommends actively identifying when you are having a judgmental thought and then taking an inventory of what was happening at that moment. \u201cWhat was the actual stimulus that elicited the judgmental thought; what emotions were you feeling before, during, and after?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>By documenting these moments and detecting patterns, you may discover your judgments are heightened in certain environments or around certain people in your life. Or, you could be triggered when you are feeling a certain way\u2014perhaps you have more judgmental thoughts when you are overtired and feeling irritable.<\/p>\n<h3>2. Let go of self-judgment<\/h3>\n<p>People are often more judgmental of themselves than they are of others, which is why Dr. Gooden encourages clients to try to get at the root of judgmental behavior. \u201cLet\u2019s say you\u2019re going to a party, and you judge the way someone was dressed,\u201d she says. \u201cAsk yourself why that set you off. Were you feeling self-conscious about how you\u2019re dressed? Were you judging yourself about how your body looks?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She also suggests people catch themselves in the act of overtly self-critical thoughts. \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/self-compassion-practices\/\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/self-compassion-practices\/\">One of the ways to practice that is through self-compassion<\/a>,\u201d she says. \u201cWhen people are more compassionate to themselves, they can be more compassionate to other people.\u201d<\/p>\n<h3>3. Tweak your vocabulary<\/h3>\n<p>Do you often use words like <em>good<\/em>, <em>bad<\/em>, <em>always<\/em>, or <em>never<\/em>? If these are common descriptors (\u201cYou\u2019re unreliable because you\u2019re always late,\u201d for instance), you may be doing too much \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/cognitive-distortion\/\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/cognitive-distortion\/\">all-or-nothing, black-and-white thinking<\/a>,\u201d according to Somich. \u201cThis is a common contributor to over-excessive judgment,\u201d she says. \u201cCatch yourself using this language and consider whether there are exceptions to that narrative.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>A solution she recommends is to also add the word <em>and<\/em> to black-and-white thoughts. \u201cTry saying, \u2018my neighbor can be really annoying, <em>and<\/em> I appreciate when he shares fresh vegetables from his garden.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n<h3>4. Be curious versus critical<\/h3>\n<p>It\u2019s a subtle mental shift, but curiosity offers a more positive framework than criticism. \u201cBe curious as to why a person may be acting in a certain way, and try to find alternate explanations for the behavior rather than jumping to critical conclusions,\u201d says Dr. Rabon.<\/p>\n<p>If, for example, you see a mom staring at her phone while pushing her child on the playground swing set, you may initially assume she\u2019s a \u201cbad\u201d parent, but try to extend the courtesy of curiosity and reconsider her reasons for doing that. Perhaps she\u2019s catching up on work after several days of being out with a sick kid, or maybe she\u2019s sending an urgent text to her partner.<\/p>\n<h3>5. Practice acceptance<\/h3>\n<p>Accepting other people or scenarios can be challenging, but Dr. Rabon says it\u2019s the key to letting go of toxic judgment. \u201cWe cannot control the behaviors of others, only how we respond to them,\u201d she says. \u201cOnce we realize there is only so much we can control, it makes it easier to accept people and situations for who and what they are because we shift our focus from the external to the internal.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>A vital way to engage in acceptance is by exposing yourself to different cultures and experiences, instead of \u201cenforcing behaviors based on predisposed beliefs,\u201d says Somich. \u201cAsk yourself, \u2018is this judgment accurate or helpful?\u2019\u201d The more you are able to accept, the clearer the answer to that will be.<\/p>\n<h3>6. Stay connected to your gut<\/h3>\n<p>Judgments can certainly be made without relying on intuition, but, Somich says, \u201cThe risk of being judgmental\u2014as a personality trait, versus making a judgment\u2014is in losing that connection to intuition.&#8221; When making decisions, try to engage with your gut and your judgments in tandem.<\/p>\n<p>Dr. Gooden likes to \u201clisten\u201d to those internal thoughts to better determine if the judgment is on the right track. \u201cHow our gut sounds is usually quiet and calm,\u201d she says. \u201cWe often know if a job interview went well or if we want a second date, and when we ask ourselves, we can usually hear it in our gut. We can hear if it\u2019s loud and anxious or if it\u2019s calm and quiet. 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