{"id":3822,"date":"2023-05-16T16:31:12","date_gmt":"2023-05-16T09:31:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/bethany-c-meyers-is-meeting-motherhood-with-a-body-neutral-approach-wellgood\/"},"modified":"2023-05-16T16:31:12","modified_gmt":"2023-05-16T09:31:12","slug":"bethany-c-meyers-is-meeting-motherhood-with-a-body-neutral-approach-wellgood","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/?p=3822","title":{"rendered":"Bethany C. Meyers Is Meeting Motherhood With a Body-Neutral Approach| Well+Good"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<aside class=\"post-share hidden md:flex justify-center relative bg-transparent text-justify bottom-0 md:bottom-auto left-[20px] right-0 md:right-auto z-10\" data-module-init=\"post-share\">\n      <a class=\"post-share__button inline-block mx-[4px] py-[11px] text-center text-gray no-underline leading-4 border-0\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.wellandgood.com%2Fbethany-c-meyers-motherhood-body-neutrality%2F\" data-vars-event=\"Facebook\" data-vars-info=\"\/bethany-c-meyers-motherhood-body-neutrality\/\" rel=\"noopener\"><br \/>\n      <span class=\"text-sm sm:text-base icon-facebook\"\/><br \/>\n      <spann class=\"visually-hidden\">Share on facebook<\/spann><br \/>\n    <\/a><br \/>\n      <a class=\"post-share__button inline-block mx-[4px] py-[11px] text-center text-gray no-underline leading-4 border-0\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/share?text=How%20Bethany%20C.%20Meyers%20Is%20Meeting%20Motherhood%20With%20a%20Body-Neutral%20Approach%20via%20%40iamwellandgood&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.wellandgood.com%2Fbethany-c-meyers-motherhood-body-neutrality%2F\" data-vars-event=\"Twitter\" data-vars-info=\"\/bethany-c-meyers-motherhood-body-neutrality\/\" rel=\"noopener\"><br \/>\n      <span class=\"text-sm sm:text-base icon-twitter\"\/><br \/>\n      <spann class=\"visually-hidden\">Share on twitter<\/spann><br \/>\n    <\/a><br \/>\n      <a class=\"post-share__button inline-block mx-[4px] py-[11px] text-center text-gray no-underline leading-4 border-0\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/pinterest.com\/pin\/create\/link\/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.wellandgood.com%2Fbethany-c-meyers-motherhood-body-neutrality%2F&amp;description=How%20Bethany%20C.%20Meyers%20Is%20Meeting%20Motherhood%20With%20a%20Body-Neutral%20Approach&amp;media=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.wellandgood.com%2Fwp-content%2Fuploads%2F2023%2F05%2FBethany-Meyers-_feature.jpg\" data-vars-event=\"Pinterest\" data-vars-info=\"\/bethany-c-meyers-motherhood-body-neutrality\/\" rel=\"noopener\"><br \/>\n      <span class=\"text-sm sm:text-base icon-pinterest-p\"\/><br \/>\n      <spann class=\"visually-hidden\">Share on pinterest<\/spann><br \/>\n    <\/a><br \/>\n      <a class=\"post-share__button inline-block mx-[4px] py-[11px] text-center text-gray no-underline leading-4 border-0\" href=\"mailto:?subject=How%20Bethany%20C.%20Meyers%20Is%20Meeting%20Motherhood%20With%20a%20Body-Neutral%20Approach&amp;body=The%20founder%20and%20CEO%20of%20body-neutral%20fitness%20platform%20and%20app%20%27the%20be.come%20project%27%20shares%20how%20a%20neutral%20approach%20to%20pregnancy%20and%20now%20postpartum%20life%20has%20been%20healing%20on%20a%20number%20of%20levels.%20https%3A%2F%2Fwww.wellandgood.com%2Fbethany-c-meyers-motherhood-body-neutrality%2F\" data-vars-event=\"Email\" data-vars-info=\"\/bethany-c-meyers-motherhood-body-neutrality\/\"><br \/>\n      <span class=\"text-sm sm:text-base icon-paper-plane\"\/><br \/>\n      <spann class=\"visually-hidden\">Share on email<\/spann><br \/>\n    <\/a><br \/>\n  <\/aside>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin premium-text-big\" style=\"\"> <em>The founder and CEO of body-neutral fitness platform and app &#8216;the be.come project&#8217; shares how a neutral approach to pregnancy and now postpartum life has been healing on a number of levels.<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> What happens when a body-neutrality pioneer goes through the highly physical transformation of pregnancy? For Bethany C. Meyers, it\u2019s brought a whole new value and meaning to the practice.<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> Body neutrality describes holding a mindset toward one\u2019s physical form that\u2019s free of judgment\u2014whether positive or negative\u2014in favor of feeling respect and appreciation. It <a href=\"https:\/\/health.clevelandclinic.org\/body-positivity-vs-body-neutrality\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/health.clevelandclinic.org\/body-positivity-vs-body-neutrality\/\">started appearing online around 2015<\/a>, largely in response to the body-positivity movement, which <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/whats-wrong-with-body-positivity\/\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/whats-wrong-with-body-positivity\/\">many feel is both exclusionary<\/a> and can lead to the feelings of shame, inadequacy, and self-hate that it aims to reverse.\u00a0<\/p>\n<div class=\"block-full mt-[80px] mb-[80px]\">\n<div class=\"acf-video text-left relative\">\n<figure class=\"w-full h-full m-0\">\n<div class=\"image-2021 overflow-hidden h-0 relative !h-full\" style=\"padding-bottom: 58.1%; \"> <picture><source data-srcset=\" https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-27-2_2000x1162_true_75.webp 2000w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-27-2_3000x1743_true_75.webp 3000w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-27-2_4000x2324_true_75.webp 4000w, https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-27-2_2000x1162_true_75.webp 2000w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-27-2_3000x1743_true_75.webp 3000w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-27-2_4000x2324_true_75.webp 4000w, https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-27-2_2000x1162_true_75.webp 2000w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-27-2_3000x1743_true_75.webp 3000w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-27-2_4000x2324_true_75.webp 4000w,\" srcset=\"\" sizes=\" (max-width:640px) 2000px,  (max-width:768px) 2000px,  2000px\"\/><img data-module-init=\"image-2021\" data-module-immediate=\"\" alt=\"\" class=\"image-2021__img             lazy                         w-full !h-full min-h-full inset-0 !absolute block left-0 top-0 object-cover\"\/> <\/picture> <\/div><figcaption class=\"text-gray-light text-[13px] leading-[20px] text-center\"> <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> This ethos is something Meyers, 36, previously <a href=\"https:\/\/thebecomeproject.com\/about-us\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener sponsored\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/thebecomeproject.com\/about-us\/\">felt was missing from the fitness landscape<\/a>, which often inextricably links feelings about appearance with exercise. As founder and CEO of body-neutral digital fitness platform and app <a href=\"https:\/\/thebecomeproject.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener sponsored\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/thebecomeproject.com\/\">the be.come project<\/a>, which launched in 2018, Meyers has focused on promoting movement without any emphasis on \u201cresults.\u201d<\/p>\n<div class=\"block-wide min-h-[400px] py-5 w-full flex flex-col justify-center items-center text-gray font-serif mt-[58px] mb-[40px]\" data-type=\"acf\/premium-article-media-text\">\n<div class=\"flex flex-col md:flex-row justify-center md:items-center w-full gap-[18px] md:gap-[37px] lg:gap-[48px] xl:gap-[54px]\">\n<figure class=\"w-full md:w-1\/2 m-0\">\n<div class=\"image-2021 overflow-hidden h-0 relative\" style=\"padding-bottom: 150.03750937734%; \"> <picture><source data-srcset=\" https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-28_1333x2000_true_75.webp 1333w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-28_2000x3000_true_75.webp 2000w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-28_2666x4000_true_75.webp 2666w, https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-28_1333x2000_true_75.webp 1333w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-28_2000x3000_true_75.webp 2000w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-28_2666x4000_true_75.webp 2666w, https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-28_1333x2000_true_75.webp 1333w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-28_2000x3000_true_75.webp 2000w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-28_2666x4000_true_75.webp 2666w,\" srcset=\"\" sizes=\" (max-width:640px) 1333px,  (max-width:768px) 1333px,  1333px\"\/><img data-module-init=\"image-2021\" data-module-immediate=\"\" alt=\"\" class=\"image-2021__img             lazy                         w-full !h-full min-h-full inset-0 !absolute block left-0 top-0 object-cover\"\/> <\/picture> <\/div><figcaption class=\"text-left text-gray-light text-[13px] leading-[20px] mt-[10px]\"> <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<div class=\"flex-1 w-full md:w-1\/2\">\n<h3 class=\"text-h3\"> <\/h3>\n<p class=\"text-big\"> But in their latest role of \u201cMom,\u201d Meyers\u2014who has experienced years of eating disorders and disordered-eating patterns\u2014has revisited their relationship with neutrality. Following a years-long journey that included infertility treatment and miscarriage, they and their partner, actor Nico Tortorella, 34, welcomed daughter Kilmer Dove on March 5 via home birth from within a tent of cozy- and whimsical-feeling lace.<\/p>\n<p>The path of conception, pregnancy loss, pregnancy, birth, and postpartum is highly physical and rife with physical changes. Meyers has been weathering these shifts and settling into their newest layer of identity while still prioritizing listening to their intuition and giving theirself grace.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe way that body neutrality is applying to me the most now is a little bit different than how maybe you might think it would apply,\u201d they tell me. \u201cI&#8217;ve been so face-to-face with the physical side of everything that it\u2019s flipped so much upside down\u2026I&#8217;ve been really trying to use body neutrality in a way that accepts all of those feelings and allows them all to be there.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>When Meyers and I recently chatted, ahead of the June release of their book, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Am-More-Than-My-Body\/dp\/0593544749\/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener sponsored\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Am-More-Than-My-Body\/dp\/0593544749\/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0\"><em>I Am More Than My Body<\/em><\/a>, it was clear that body neutrality is perhaps more important to them than ever\u2014if in a newer, more open way. <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"premium-article-q-and-a block-thin flex flex-col md:flex-row relative justify-center gap-[25px] mt-[56px] mb-[24px] lg:mb-[40px]\">\n<p>Q<\/p>\n<p> <span class=\"wp-block-wg-plain-text\">Congratulations on baby Kilmer Dove! I have a nine-month-old myself, so I have a lot of compassion for what it\u2019s like to navigate new parenthood. For me it\u2019s been joyful and also often difficult and exhausting. How are you doing?<\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> <strong>Bethany C. Meyers:<\/strong> Truly, I&#8217;m doing well. It&#8217;s just wild to me how fast it&#8217;s going; the first six weeks, I didn&#8217;t have anyone at the house, and I didn&#8217;t really leave the house. It was a time of super-intense bonding, which was amazing. But now, all the company&#8217;s starting to come in: My mom was here last week, Nico&#8217;s mom&#8217;s here this week. I feel like it&#8217;s like time to get back into the swing of things and I&#8217;m just like, whoa.<\/p>\n<div class=\"premium-article-q-and-a block-thin flex flex-col md:flex-row relative justify-center gap-[25px] mt-[56px] mb-[24px] lg:mb-[40px]\">\n<p>Q<\/p>\n<p> <span class=\"wp-block-wg-plain-text\">Time is such a precious resource during this newborn phase\u2014it moves so fast, to your point. So I very much appreciate you sharing some of your time with us. In particular, I\u2019m interested in chatting about body neutrality as it relates to your fertility journey, pregnancy, and postpartum period. Has this time impacted your relationship with being body neutral? <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> <strong>BM: <\/strong>In body neutrality, there is a practice of letting go of the idea that your body is the most important thing. I think it&#8217;s hard to get to a place where you&#8217;re in bliss about your body. But, I do think that we can start to reframe the way that we think about our bodies and really prioritize our mental health, our well-being, and our strength\u2014that\u2019s the part of body neutrality that bled into my infertility process.<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> So much of that felt like my body was failing me. And then I got pregnant, and my body did not belong to me. I didn&#8217;t want to say this when I was pregnant, because it took me so long to get there and I was so scared of jinxing it, but I did not like being pregnant. Now that I am holding my baby in my arms, I am so happy.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> The other night, I was sitting in the bathtub, and I started crying because my body feels like it&#8217;s mine again.<em> <\/em>I&#8217;m not carrying a baby, I&#8217;m not getting shots, I&#8217;m not going to the doctor, I&#8217;m not tracking a cycle, I&#8217;m not looking at a period\u2014I&#8217;m just in my body. And that was such a powerful moment. Finding this more neutral state is the way that the concept is applying to me the most now.\u00a0<\/p>\n<div class=\"premium-article-q-and-a block-thin flex flex-col md:flex-row relative justify-center gap-[25px] mt-[56px] mb-[24px] lg:mb-[40px]\">\n<p>Q<\/p>\n<p> <span class=\"wp-block-wg-plain-text\">Experiencing infertility, pregnancy, and postpartum are all largely physical. How do you approach having feelings\u2014negative or positive\u2014about the highly physical components of bringing a life into the world, and has this affected your relationship with body neutrality?<\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> <strong>BM:<\/strong> My body is so different now than before I was pregnant\u2014I&#8217;m a different size. That can be jarring, and I&#8217;m more sympathetic to that now. Before having a baby, I was a little bit like, \u201cIt doesn&#8217;t matter, just focus on what your body has done for you.\u201d That&#8217;s nice, and part of that is true: I do have a different relationship with my body because I&#8217;ve seen what it can do, and the life that it can give, and how it can feed another life.<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> I&#8217;ve also been really, really excited to do movement and to work out. I&#8217;ve wondered whether my motive for wanting to work out is because I want to lose weight. In eating-disorder recovery, it\u2019s a big thing for me to notice motivation for working out so I can make sure that it&#8217;s not just about the physical. Literally last night, I was like, \u201cWell, some of the motive is physical\u2014that does exist, and I don&#8217;t know that I need to beat myself up for that or try to take that out, because I think that there is something so natural about that. My body has shifted a ton, and it\u2019s okay to have those feelings while also not letting them be the highest priority.\u00a0<\/p>\n<div class=\"premium-article-q-and-a block-thin flex flex-col md:flex-row relative justify-center gap-[25px] mt-[56px] mb-[24px] lg:mb-[40px]\">\n<p>Q<\/p>\n<p> <span class=\"wp-block-wg-plain-text\">Do you have any tips for how any birthing person&#8217;s partner can help foster and nourish a body-neutral environment while still appreciating their partner&#8217;s changing body? What role does your partner play?<\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> <strong>BM:<\/strong> I&#8217;m so lucky to have Nico. He&#8217;s just really been there throughout the pregnancy\u2014throughout all of it. I have a lot of support. Nico has been making sure I&#8217;m fed. I&#8217;m feeding the baby, and Nico&#8217;s feeding me, and specifically postpartum, the time that you have to feed yourself is non-existent. That has been super-helpful, because something that often would play in my eating disorder is just like not having time.<\/p>\n<div class=\"block-thin mt-[30px] mb-[40px]\">\n<div class=\"acf-video text-left relative\">\n<figure class=\"w-full h-full m-0\">\n<div class=\"image-2021 overflow-hidden h-0 relative !h-full\" style=\"padding-bottom: 66.65%; \"> <picture><source data-srcset=\" https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-23-1_2000x1333_true_75.webp 2000w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-23-1_3000x2000_true_75.webp 3000w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-23-1_4000x2666_true_75.webp 4000w, https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-23-1_2000x1333_true_75.webp 2000w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-23-1_3000x2000_true_75.webp 3000w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-23-1_4000x2666_true_75.webp 4000w, https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-23-1_2000x1333_true_75.webp 2000w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-23-1_3000x2000_true_75.webp 3000w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-23-1_4000x2666_true_75.webp 4000w,\" srcset=\"\" sizes=\" (max-width:640px) 2000px,  (max-width:768px) 2000px,  2000px\"\/><img data-module-init=\"image-2021\" data-module-immediate=\"\" alt=\"\" class=\"image-2021__img             lazy                         w-full !h-full min-h-full inset-0 !absolute block left-0 top-0 object-cover\"\/> <\/picture> <\/div><figcaption class=\"text-gray-light text-[13px] leading-[20px] text-center\"> <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> Nico is just a big cheerleader for my body, for the changes, and for loving all of the changes. That has made me feel really confident. Body positivity doesn&#8217;t necessarily work for my own self the majority of the time, but my partner is my body positivity. He&#8217;s always like, \u201cYou&#8217;re looking great\u201d and \u201cI love this\u201d and helping me find clothes. It&#8217;s so helpful to have someone like that\u2014if it&#8217;s not your partner, then a friend.<\/p>\n<div class=\"premium-article-quote block-thin flex flex-col relative justify-center text-center mt-[37px] mb-[30px]\" data-type=\"acf\/premium-article-quote\">\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-wg-quote block-thin flex flex-col\">\n<p class=\"quote-quote text-quote\"> &#8220;Body positivity doesn&#8217;t necessarily work for my own self the majority of the time, but my partner is my body positivity.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><cite class=\"quote-credit block font-serif text-[19px] italic opacity-60\">\u2014Bethany C. Meyers<\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote><\/div>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> Also, I&#8217;ve been really wanting to find time for movement. That&#8217;s something that Nico has helped me prioritize, by being like, \u201cHey, I&#8217;m gonna take the baby. Why don&#8217;t you go and, you know, do a workout or do whatever you want to do, or go outside, take a walk, that kind of thing?\u201d And I think having that dedicated time has been really helpful.<\/p>\n<div class=\"premium-article-q-and-a block-thin flex flex-col md:flex-row relative justify-center gap-[25px] mt-[56px] mb-[24px] lg:mb-[40px]\">\n<p>Q<\/p>\n<p> <span class=\"wp-block-wg-plain-text\">Last year, you wrote about the difficulty and importance of learning to accept a lack of control in reference to navigating infertility and pregnancy loss. What does the concept of control mean to you now and as you look back on pregnancy?<\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> <strong>BM:<\/strong> I&#8217;m a person who likes to have things figured out. I like to know what I&#8217;m doing. I like to be in control. I run a company\u2014I&#8217;m good at the things that I&#8217;m good at and that I know how to do. After having a baby, all of a sudden, you&#8217;re thrown into this brand-new role that you&#8217;ve only read about. That&#8217;s, that&#8217;s really where I feel like the struggle comes in sometimes. I just want to know what I&#8217;m doing for a little bit; I just want to feel super-confident. And that certainly takes time.<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> I\u2019m also finding a lot of similarities between diet culture and mother culture. My Instagram now serves me Reels saying things like, \u201cIf you do anything with a baby three times, they&#8217;re going to form a habit.\u201d What that sounds like to me is, \u201cIf you eat this amount of sugar, then you&#8217;re going to be addicted.\u201d It is wild to me how much parent culture and diet culture connect in this way.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> During the first few weeks after Kilmer was born, I was just so inundated with information like this. In my opinion, it creates fear that we do not innately know how to take care of our children, the same way that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/diet-culture-lies\/\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/diet-culture-lies\/\">diet culture creates fear<\/a> that we are going to wreck our bodies. Taking care of ourselves and our babies is what we know how to do so deep within. My practice in body neutrality is helping me weed out some of the noise and focus on body trust and intuition.<\/p>\n<div class=\"premium-article-q-and-a block-thin flex flex-col md:flex-row relative justify-center gap-[25px] mt-[56px] mb-[24px] lg:mb-[40px]\">\n<p>Q<\/p>\n<p> <span class=\"wp-block-wg-plain-text\">You&#8217;ve shared about all the work you\u2019ve done to recover from eating disorders and to unlearn diet culture. Is it a similar mechanism that helps you weed out this noise of unsolicited parenting advice?<\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> <strong>BM:<\/strong> I&#8217;m attuned to the red flags. Red flags for me in the diet-culture world is anything that is an absolute, and anything that follows a format of, \u201cdo this, and the problem will be fixed,\u201d or \u201cthese three things take care of this thing.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> I&#8217;m so sensitive to that kind of information that after Kilmer was born, I started to feel something wasn\u2019t right about all of these Reels\u2014I&#8217;ve had to ask people to stop sending them to me. Practicing body neutrality has helped me become really aware of how I feel.\u00a0<\/p>\n<div class=\"premium-article-q-and-a block-thin flex flex-col md:flex-row relative justify-center gap-[25px] mt-[56px] mb-[24px] lg:mb-[40px]\">\n<p>Q<\/p>\n<p> <span class=\"wp-block-wg-plain-text\">So many people are navigating or in recovery for eating disorders while pregnant or in the postpartum period. Given your experience, what advice would you offer?<\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"block-wide min-h-[400px] py-5 w-full flex flex-col justify-center items-center text-gray font-serif mt-[58px] mb-[40px]\" data-type=\"acf\/premium-article-media-text\">\n<div class=\"flex flex-col md:flex-row justify-center md:items-center w-full gap-[18px] md:gap-[37px] lg:gap-[48px] xl:gap-[54px]\">\n<figure class=\"w-full md:w-1\/2 m-0\">\n<div class=\"image-2021 overflow-hidden h-0 relative\" style=\"padding-bottom: 150.03750937734%; \"> <picture><source data-srcset=\" https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-65_1333x2000_true_75.webp 1333w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-65_2000x3000_true_75.webp 2000w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-65_2666x4000_true_75.webp 2666w, https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-65_1333x2000_true_75.webp 1333w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-65_2000x3000_true_75.webp 2000w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-65_2666x4000_true_75.webp 2666w, https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-65_1333x2000_true_75.webp 1333w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-65_2000x3000_true_75.webp 2000w,https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Bethany-65_2666x4000_true_75.webp 2666w,\" srcset=\"\" sizes=\" (max-width:640px) 1333px,  (max-width:768px) 1333px,  1333px\"\/><img data-module-init=\"image-2021\" data-module-immediate=\"\" alt=\"\" class=\"image-2021__img             lazy                         w-full !h-full min-h-full inset-0 !absolute block left-0 top-0 object-cover\"\/> <\/picture> <\/div><figcaption class=\"text-left text-gray-light text-[13px] leading-[20px] mt-[10px]\"> <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<div class=\"flex-1 w-full md:w-1\/2\">\n<h3 class=\"text-h3\"> <\/h3>\n<p class=\"text-big\"> <strong>BM: <\/strong>Having someone to talk to is probably like the number one, most important thing. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/community-care-eating-disorder\/\" referrerpolicy=\"no-referrer-when-downgrade\" data-vars-event=\"body text\" data-vars-click-url=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/community-care-eating-disorder\/\">Get the support you need<\/a>, but know that pregnancy can also be a positive experience that can help you heal further.<\/p>\n<p>During pregnancy, my relationship with food became better than it had ever been. I <em>had<\/em> to eat to not feel nauseous, I <em>had<\/em> to eat to sustain life\u2014same thing now, but with breastfeeding. I&#8217;ve never been so much of an applauder of fat and protein. Now, all day long, I&#8217;m just like, \u201cI need fat, I need protein, I need fat, I need protein. We\u2019ve gotta keep this milk running.\u201d And that has actually been really healing in the way that I look at food and consumption.\u00a0 <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"premium-article-q-and-a block-thin flex flex-col md:flex-row relative justify-center gap-[25px] mt-[56px] mb-[24px] lg:mb-[40px]\">\n<p>Q<\/p>\n<p> <span class=\"wp-block-wg-plain-text\">Do you have any other specific advice you\u2019d like to offer folks in any stage of pregnancy and the postpartum period?<\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"core-paragraph block-thin text-big\" style=\"\"> <strong>BM: <\/strong>Allow yourself the space and the time and the healing that you need, because pregnancy and birth is such a dramatic experience for your body. It&#8217;s okay to give yourself time. It can feel like we&#8217;re not allowed that time, or like we&#8217;re supposed to be out and taking walks and doing this and that, but it&#8217;s really okay to lay in your bed. 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