{"id":13423,"date":"2025-02-25T17:15:29","date_gmt":"2025-02-25T10:15:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/?p=13423"},"modified":"2025-02-25T17:15:29","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T10:15:29","slug":"a-mans-guide-to-overcoming-temptation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/loudhdtv.com\/?p=13423","title":{"rendered":"A Man\u2019s Guide to Overcoming Temptation"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p class=\"bgl-post-date\">February 25, 2025<\/p>\n<p><b>Last week, I <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/?p=274766\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-wpel-link=\"internal\"><b>posted about the sacredness of sex<\/b><\/a><b>.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So this week, I\u2019m inspired to continue with the topic of sex, namely, the potential cheapening of it.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you\u2019re a woman reading this, especially if you\u2019re a married or soon-to-be-married woman, you may <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">not<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> want to tune out. It\u2019s important to know what goes through a guy\u2019s brain if he happens to be doing the majority of his thinking with <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">that<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> specific organ, which you\u2019ll soon find out is not necessarily the case.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you\u2019re a guy, then definitely keep reading. It could save you a lot of trouble in the future.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b>Sex &amp; The Traveling Businessman<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><b>Here\u2019s the thing: I travel a LOT for work.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether teaching nutrition at a yoga clinic in South America, blasting onto a stage in a packed Vegas conference room, or (as is the case while I\u2019m writing this) visiting nine cities in twelve days across India for entrepreneur health coaching, one of the major ways I bring home the bacon to feed my family is by spending plenty of time in airplanes and hotel rooms.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For much of that travel, I\u2019m 100% solo. <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright wp-image-275170 \" src=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/Screen-Shot-2025-02-20-at-7.04.04-PM-981x1024.jpg\" alt=\"ben on plane\" width=\"401\" height=\"418\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/Screen-Shot-2025-02-20-at-7.04.04-PM-981x1024.jpg 981w, https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/Screen-Shot-2025-02-20-at-7.04.04-PM-287x300.jpg 287w, https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/Screen-Shot-2025-02-20-at-7.04.04-PM-768x802.jpg 768w, https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/Screen-Shot-2025-02-20-at-7.04.04-PM.jpg 1098w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 401px) 100vw, 401px\"\/><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That means I\u2019m a married man traveling alone\u2014with no wife, no wingman, and nearly nonexistent accountability\u2014while also, due to my status as a public figure perceived as healthy, powerful, and influential, frequently encountering a plethora of attractive, aggressive women who make their intentions clear, whether through Instagram booty calls, not-so-subtle touches, or outright propositions to \u201cget in my pants,\u201d so to speak. And that\u2019s not even considering the endless access to pornography on my television and smartphone, available anytime without the need to sneak away or hide. After all, as I mentioned, I\u2019m usually alone.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As you can imagine, constant sexual temptation is something I\u2019ve had to learn to deal with gracefully and virtuously, specifically by keeping my pants on and my tongue in my own mouth.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Admittedly, there was a time when I <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">didn\u2019t<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> do a good job dealing with it all. The flattery, the short-term pleasure, and the excuses to myself that a one-night stand isn\u2019t really an emotionally attached or a long-term relationship left me coming home several times to my family having been sexually unfaithful and having to hide my own lack of moral excellence for fear of being shamed.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s about the worst feeling in the world to take your wife out on a date after a bout of travel escapades and try to shut down the mental scream inside your head that you\u2019ve cheated on the innocent and trusting life partner sitting across from you. It\u2019s also shattering, as a hypocritical father, to lecture your sons about faithfulness while imagining them growing up to be just like you\u2014violating their relationship with their own wives and families. It\u2019s important to note that the few seconds of pleasure derived from a short-term hookup are never, ever, ever worth it. You basically hate yourself afterward. It\u2019s horrible, and it\u2019s never fulfilling. Ever.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Considering this is a big problem that tears families apart, destroys legacy, and implodes home life, it\u2019s something that you need to deeply care about if you\u2019re a married man or future married man reading this, especially if you travel often like I do. I suspect I can\u2019t be the only married guy out there who has to navigate this path.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But, if you\u2019re still reading at this point, you probably already know that the classic infidelity of the traveling businessman is a big problem.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><b>While it\u2019s certainly important to understand the chaos that unfaithfulness, whether in analog or digital form, wreaks upon your closest, dearest relationships, it\u2019s just as important to understand what exactly to do about it.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, that\u2019s what I\u2019m going to share now: seven practical tips, from the trenches, on how I have\u2014by the grace of God\u2014developed a thick-skinned resilience to sexual immorality, how I\u2019ve transformed my relationship with my wife through over a decade of dedicated faithfulness, and how you can too.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b style=\"color: #1b1919; font-family: Karla, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 22px;\">1. Pray\u00a0<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">God doesn\u2019t <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">want<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> you to cheat.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/biblia.com\/books\/niv2011\/Ro5.3-5\" data-wpel-link=\"external\" rel=\"noopener\">Romans 5:3-5<\/a> says that tribulation produces perseverance, and perseverance, character, this doesn\u2019t mean God is haphazardly tossing temptations your way with no way of escape, all while rubbing His hands together and waiting for you to succumb to inevitable demise. The Bible says that God will not tempt you beyond your ability and that He <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">will<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> provide a way out of temptation. <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/biblia.com\/books\/niv2011\/1Co10.13\" data-wpel-link=\"external\" rel=\"noopener\">1 Corinthians 10:13<\/a> says, <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cNo temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Furthermore, <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/biblia.com\/books\/niv2011\/Mt26.41\" data-wpel-link=\"external\" rel=\"noopener\">Matthew 26:41<\/a> says, <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cWatch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-275171 \" src=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/ben-greenfield-interview-and-sons-magazine-2-1-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"ben praying\" width=\"182\" height=\"273\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/ben-greenfield-interview-and-sons-magazine-2-1-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/ben-greenfield-interview-and-sons-magazine-2-1-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/ben-greenfield-interview-and-sons-magazine-2-1-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/ben-greenfield-interview-and-sons-magazine-2-1-1024x1536.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/ben-greenfield-interview-and-sons-magazine-2-1.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 182px) 100vw, 182px\"\/><\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><strong>It\u2019s painfully obvious, isn\u2019t it? Be aware and pray when you know temptation is coming at you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is easier said than done. You can\u2019t exactly drop to your knees at a cocktail party when a gorgeous woman in a slinky, short skirt is stroking your arm\u2014telling you with her lips how much she admires what you\u2019ve accomplished while telling you with her eyes that she\u2019d like to accomplish something for you herself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019ll tell you exactly what works for me in a situation like this: I excuse myself to a corner of the bar, duck behind a curtain, or slip into a bathroom stall and say one simple prayer that just <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">works. <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s called <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Jesus_Prayer\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-wpel-link=\"external\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cthe Jesus prayer<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cLord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This works like magic. You can almost <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">feel <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">the sexual demons slipping away when you say it. Jesus understands. He\u2019s been there. <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/biblia.com\/books\/niv2011\/Heb4.15\" data-wpel-link=\"external\" rel=\"noopener\">Hebrews 4:15<\/a> says, <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cHe was tempted in every way that we are, but he did not sin.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And sure, you should maintain a constant state of prayer that goes deeper than just a single sentence. But when you\u2019re in a pinch\u2014your lust accelerating to full speed, your body betraying you, and you need a desperate call for Christ who strengthens you\u2014this is the prayer to have memorized. I use it often.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Empathize<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Anytime I\u2019m tempted to invite a woman into my hotel room or pull up porn on my laptop, I imagine how I\u2019d feel if I walked in on my <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">wife<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> doing the same thing. Put yourself in <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">her <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">shoes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The next time you feel like masturbating to porn, ask yourself how you would feel if you walked in on her in the bedroom pleasuring herself to some random dude on the screen of her smartphone with his pants pulled down.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Or let\u2019s say a woman at the hotel bar, or maybe <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">two, <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">asks what you\u2019re up to later and what your room number is. Sure, this sounds like a fantastic time, but how would you feel if you got home and walked in on your wife with one man underneath her and another behind her?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I throw up in my mouth just thinking about a dude or two banging my wife. So how is it any different for me to entertain the idea of doing the same thing with women?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It doesn\u2019t have to be as extreme as that. For example, should you want your wife talking to an alpha male at a conference afterparty the same way you\u2019re standing in really, really close proximity to that woman batting her eyes at you? Would you want your wife getting a rub-down from a heartthrob male massage therapist? Would you want her giving side hugs, bear hugs, and back rubs to random dudes when she\u2019s off on a trip?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>So don\u2019t do to her what you wouldn\u2019t want done to you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By the way, although I do prefer the tender touch of a female massage therapist, I always choose the <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ugly <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">or really <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">old <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ones if I need some deep tissue work when I\u2019m on the road.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Sleep\u00a0<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes you just gotta get your ass to sleep. The later you stay at an after-party, the crazier it gets. The later you hang out at the bar or restaurant, the more desperate and aggressive the opposite sex acts. The later you stay awake in your hotel room, the more appealing free porn becomes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When it comes to both morality and productivity, I live by the mentality that \u2018more good things happen in the morning than in the evening.\u2019 In the morning, you read, pray, work, stretch, exercise, and drink coffee. In the evening, you eat, make small talk, consume entertainment, lounge around, or sit too much\u2014and often, you drink alcohol.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So go to sleep, already.<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright wp-image-206759 \" src=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/get-better-sleep-naturally-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"get better sleep naturally\" width=\"384\" height=\"216\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/get-better-sleep-naturally-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/get-better-sleep-naturally-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/get-better-sleep-naturally-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/get-better-sleep-naturally.jpg 1400w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 384px) 100vw, 384px\"\/><\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Again, it&#8217;s easier said than done, right?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here\u2019s how I paint myself into a corner: when I walk into my hotel room, even if there\u2019s FOMO brewing in my brain to go hit another party or an appealing text on my phone from some hottie I met a few hours earlier, I immediately implement smart sleep hygiene principles, namely:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Turn the temperature down as low as it goes.<\/span><\/i><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Put your phone and computer in night mode and\/or airplane mode.<\/span><\/i><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pop your sleep cocktail of choice (not to get all commercialized here, but I do Kion Sleep + Element Health Max Strength CBD + a whopping sledgehammer of Mitozen Melatonin).<\/span><\/i><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Play some really relaxing sleep noise or a white noise sleep app.<\/span><\/i><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Get the room as dark as possible, and I mean really dark.<\/span><\/i><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pull on a sleep mask, curl up in bed, and say your prayers.<\/span><\/i><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes, I know if I were a real tough guy and a really strong Christian, I should be able to resist temptation through sheer prayer and a touch of willpower, without inducing a near-comatose sleep state.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>But I\u2019m just sharing what works for me.<\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Porn<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You probably raised an eyebrow at that one, right?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No, I am not endorsing that you whip out your credit card and whip down your pants while justifying to yourself that at least you\u2019re not cheating with a real human. The good of turning down analog sex doesn\u2019t justify the ugliness of turning to digital sex.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019m talking about <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">wifey-porn<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, guys.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You know that \u201chidden\u201d photo feature on your phone? It\u2019s not just for storing a bank statement image or Bitcoin passphrase screenshots.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Consider politely asking your wife to do a photo shoot for you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A really dirty one.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tell her your favorite poses, positions, and fantasies, then let her go to town and text or Airdrop you everything. Feel free to add a bit more to your spouse&#8217;s spank bank arsenal when you\u2019re making love with her (tip: use a tripod if you don\u2019t want to kill the vibe by cradling your phone in one hand and her in the other). If your religious or spiritual convictions make you question whether wifey porn is right, take a look at the softcore poetry in the Bible\u2019s <\/span><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/biblia.com\/books\/niv2011\/So\" data-wpel-link=\"external\" rel=\"noopener\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Song of Solomon<\/span><\/i><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for some inspiration.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then, the next time you\u2019ve been on a road trip for a few days and have blue balls, or you need to have nothing on your mind but <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">her, <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">open that hidden photo folder and proceed to have a really, really good time with yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And not to be painfully obvious, but if you use this strategy, please don\u2019t share your phone passcode with your kids. You do <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">not <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">want them trying to erase those images from their memory while mom is making them breakfast in the kitchen.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">P.S. <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> share your phone passcode with your wife. She should be able to see all your texts, calls, browser history, etc. whenever she likes. That too will help keep you behaving.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Exercise<\/b><\/h3>\n<h3><b><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright wp-image-275172 \" src=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/ben-greenfield-lifting_s-ezgif.com-webp-to-jpg-converter-1-1024x1024.jpg\" alt=\"ben lifting \" width=\"354\" height=\"354\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/ben-greenfield-lifting_s-ezgif.com-webp-to-jpg-converter-1-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/ben-greenfield-lifting_s-ezgif.com-webp-to-jpg-converter-1-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/ben-greenfield-lifting_s-ezgif.com-webp-to-jpg-converter-1-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/ben-greenfield-lifting_s-ezgif.com-webp-to-jpg-converter-1-1536x1536.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/ben-greenfield-lifting_s-ezgif.com-webp-to-jpg-converter-1.jpg 1600w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 354px) 100vw, 354px\"\/><\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sure, your natural testosterone levels when away from your spouse coupled with your pent-up sexual vigor can be a potent combination to make you ultra-horny.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But that doesn\u2019t mean that extra energy needs to be directed towards sex or jacking off. It also doesn\u2019t mean you should try to tie a rubber band around your testicles or hunt down some kind of libido-decreasing herb.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead, there\u2019s nothing like a good workout routine, especially a soul-crushing, death-defying bout that leaves lactic acid bleeding out of your ears, to make you a bit more calm and better behaved later on.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As a matter of fact, my workout routine on the road is<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> very dedicated and really hard<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. I never skip a beat because it serves as a cathartic tension release\u2014and from experience, I can tell you that it considerably turns down the lust dial.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, on an average road trip, I\u2019ll alternate between:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Push day (overhead press, bench press, push-up, squat, leg press, etc.).<\/span><\/i><\/li>\n<li><i>Pull day (pull-up, pull-down, row, deadlift, etc.).<\/i><\/li>\n<li><i>Core\/cardio day (rowing machine, treadmill, bike, planks, leg raises, etc.).<\/i><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I recommend having a detailed plan like mine put together before you even arrive at your final destination. Paired with making things as frictionless as possible by having your workout clothes and shoes laid out for you next to the bed and a strong cup of coffee within arm\u2019s reach, you\u2019ll be able to direct some of that \u201clife force\u201d towards muscle-building instead of home-wrecking.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Call-A-Friend<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, things get really tough, and it feels like you can\u2019t handle it alone with just you and God. Sometimes, you need a friend to step in and warn you before you charge headfirst into disaster\u2014kind of like a rutting male elk, so driven by instinct instead of wisdom that he doesn\u2019t realize he\u2019s about to walk straight into a hunting blind.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s those times for which you need a digital wingman from afar\u2014a guy friend with whom you can share your most embarrassing thoughts and vulnerable tendencies.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is the friend who you can text or call whenever you need and who understands you and <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">gets it<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> when you call him at 11:18 pm on a Saturday night sweating bullets because you almost made a mistake that could cost you half your assets and no more Christmas with your in-laws.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You think that\u2019s too humiliating?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Look: all of us guys go through the same struggles that you do. The problem is, we just don\u2019t <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">talk<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> about it with each other. But we\u2019ve all <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">thought <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">and <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">experienced <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">the same things, except maybe that Ned Flanders-esque friend who seems like he somehow left his libido in sixth grade.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/thedadedge.com\/emeal-zwayne-fight-like-a-man\/\" data-wpel-link=\"external\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Guest Emeal Zwayne on <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Dad Edge<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> podcast<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> eloquently described this idea of men being embarrassed to share their sexual struggles and temptations with other men. His book, <\/span><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/3X7tUFP\" data-wpel-link=\"external\" rel=\"noopener\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fight Like A Man<\/span><\/i><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, goes into much more depth on this topic than this brief article and is worth a read, especially if you need a really detailed, well-written handbook for personal purity.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, open up to a buddy. Be vulnerable\u2014whether it\u2019s asking him to pray for you to quit going down the slippery Instagram softcore-to-Internet-porn-hardcore rabbit hole or to check in on you every day until you\u2019re back home to make sure you stay faithful. Trust me, he\u2019d want you to do the same for him, and this kind of raw, honest, radical transparency is what deepens the bonds of male friendship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Build Legacy<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This last tip is by <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">far<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> the most powerful for me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Two years ago, while in India, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=zz2BnHlHZfE\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-wpel-link=\"external\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I was interviewed by entrepreneur Mukesh Bansal<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. The discussion turned to anti-aging, longevity, and\u2014as such discussions often do\u2014eventually progressed into the idea of whether I thought human immortality was attainable.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I said \u201cYes.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And I didn\u2019t mean that I figured we\u2019d eventually decode cryopreservation of our brains and repeatedly implant them into a fresh new body over and over again, in perpetuity. Nor did I mean that I anticipate that one day soon we could mainline designer drugs into our bloodstream to turn back the clock forever. Nor was I even referring to the immortality attained through Christian salvation.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead, I described how a man\u2019s offspring allows that man\u2019s principles, philosophies, goals, dreams, and desires to be carried out by subsequent generations who happen to bear his genes and last name.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-2646 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/06\/family.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"394\" height=\"280\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/06\/family.png 394w, https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/06\/family-300x213.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 394px) 100vw, 394px\"\/><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is one reason legacy is so, <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">so<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> important in the Greenfield home. We have a <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/GreenfieldFamily-Poster.pdf\" data-wpel-link=\"internal\" rel=\"noopener\">family mission statement, a family set of core values<\/a>, a <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Familycrest.pdf\" data-wpel-link=\"internal\" rel=\"noopener\">family logo<\/a>, a <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/crest.pdf\" data-wpel-link=\"internal\" rel=\"noopener\">family crest<\/a>, and a <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/Greenfield-Family-Constitution-2024-Update-1.pdf\" data-wpel-link=\"internal\" rel=\"noopener\">family constitution<\/a>. Heck, we even have the Greenfield family flags flying proudly outside the front door, the Greenfield family logo on the big sign at the end of the driveway, and Greenfield family pickleball paddles, pepper grinder, cup coasters, throw pillows, hoodies, and hats we wear for a night out on the town. Woven into our yearly traditions and daily comings and goings is the sense that we are a strong family unit with a shared belief and purpose and that by working together as a cohesive pack we can actually affect long-term positive change in the world.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maybe this is why <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.science.org\/content\/article\/fatherhood-decreases-testosterone\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-wpel-link=\"external\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">men who become fathers experience a slight decrease in testosterone<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. It\u2019s as though we have a built-in braking system on our natural propensity to sow our seeds far and wide so that we can instead focus on providing for and protecting our family\u2014so that we can, in a way, live on forever through our lineage.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Obviously, however, there\u2019s still more than enough testosterone in the average family man to make sexual sin a tormenting reality. But when there\u2019s an urge to cheat, to weaken the bonds of a spousal relationship with porn, to give up and walk away from family life because it\u2019s just too complex and challenging, or to fly free like your horny internal bird sometimes wants to, there\u2019s nothing like a strong sense of legacy to keep your feet firmly grounded.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What do you choose, and what seems more appealing? The long-term reward of this kind of \u201cimmortality\u201d built through generational legacy\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u2026or the short-term pleasure of a thirty-second orgasm?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don\u2019t fret if your children are already teenagers, you don\u2019t have a family constitution, and purpose and legacy don\u2019t feel like they\u2019re a remotely significant part of your family. After all, the best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago, or today. If you want to learn more about building generational wealth,<\/span><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/podcast\/rich-christiansen-podcast\/\" data-wpel-link=\"internal\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> listen to my podcast interview with Rich Christiansen<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or read my book <\/span><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/shopbengreenfieldlife.com\/products\/boundless-parenting\" data-wpel-link=\"external\" rel=\"noopener\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Boundless Parenting<\/span><\/i><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b>Summary<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><b>OK, a quick review here.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">First, pray. Pray a lot when you travel, but have some short prayers memorized for when the blood flow seems to be getting directed away from your brain and towards your crotch.\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Second, empathize. Put yourself in her shoes.\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Third, know how to induce yourself into a comatose-like sleep state.\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fourth, have your wife supply you with some really sexy photos and videos of her, preferably explicit enough to leave nothing to your imagination.\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fifth, exercise. Redirect energy.\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sixth, have a wingman.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Seventh, and most importantly, build the kind of legacy that makes cheating seem to pale in comparison to generation-building.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So there you have it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That\u2019s how I don\u2019t cheat when I travel.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Of course, I\u2019m not perfect. I\u2019m no know-it-all. There are things I don\u2019t do yet that I probably should and things I left out of this article I probably shouldn\u2019t have.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>So, what questions do you have, and what tips do <\/b><b><i>you<\/i><\/b><b> have for the guys out there who want to stay faithful?<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Additionally, here are a few other great resources you can dig into on the topic on sex, intimacy, and connection:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/podcast\/best-of-intimacy\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-wpel-link=\"internal\">Best of Intimacy and Biohacking Sex: Optimize Libido, Orgasm Enhancement, Thrust In Time, Better Erections Naturally, Breathwork &amp; More.<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/article\/biohacking-the-bedroom\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-wpel-link=\"internal\">How to Improve Your Sex Life: 12 Biohacks for Better Orgasms, Sexual Health &amp; Intimacy<\/a><\/li>\n<li id=\"title\" class=\"style-scope ytd-watch-metadata\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=xi3xHD4OKLU\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-wpel-link=\"external\">How To Biohack Your Sex Life \u2014 Ben Greenfield<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"style-scope ytd-watch-metadata\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=LbsFEMfvOhk\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-wpel-link=\"external\">How to Optimize Your Brain, Sex Life, and Body with Ben Greenfield<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"style-scope ytd-watch-metadata\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/bengreenfieldfitness\/p\/B1o5WBBgbQy\/?img_index=1\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-wpel-link=\"external\">How to Make \u201cSex-Enhancing\u201d Ice Cream<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"style-scope ytd-watch-metadata\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=HCIO63Xplys\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-wpel-link=\"external\">Ben Greenfield On How To Raise Your Libido &amp; Solve Thyroid Issues<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"style-scope ytd-watch-metadata\"><a href=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/podcast\/best-sexual-biohacks\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-wpel-link=\"internal\">The Best Sexual Biohacks, Can Vasectomies Decrease Testosterone, Foods &amp; Supplements For Boosting Nitric Oxide &amp; Much More. <\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"style-scope ytd-watch-metadata\"><a href=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/podcast\/susan-bratton-podcast\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-wpel-link=\"internal\">Multiple, Mind-Blowing Orgasms, The Best Sex Toys, Clitoral Pumps, Yoni Genital Steaming &amp; Much More With \u201cSexpert\u201d Susan Bratton.<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/podcast\/susan-bratton-sex-podcast\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-wpel-link=\"internal\">Biohacking Sex: The Best Tips, Tricks, Supplements &amp; Food To Optimize Libido, Desire &amp; Arousal.<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><!-- This site is converting visitors into subscribers and customers with OptinMonster - https:\/\/optinmonster.com :: Campaign Title: Fit Soul Inline CTA --><\/p>\n<p><!-- \/ OptinMonster -->\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n<p><script>\n!function(f,b,e,v,n,t,s)\n{if(f.fbq)return;n=f.fbq=function(){n.callMethod?\nn.callMethod.apply(n,arguments):n.queue.push(arguments)};\nif(!f._fbq)f._fbq=n;n.push=n;n.loaded=!0;n.version='2.0';\nn.queue=[];t=b.createElement(e);t.async=!0;\nt.src=v;s=b.getElementsByTagName(e)[0];\ns.parentNode.insertBefore(t,s)}(window,document,'script',\n'https:\/\/connect.facebook.net\/en_US\/fbevents.js');\n fbq('init', '331499753980975'); \nfbq('track', 'PageView');\nfbq('track', 'Lead');\n<\/script><script async defer crossorigin=\"anonymous\" src=\"https:\/\/connect.facebook.net\/en_US\/sdk.js#xfbml=1&#038;version=v8.0&#038;appId=700954607523106&#038;autoLogAppEvents=1\" nonce=\"rGHVguCc\"><\/script><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><br \/>\n<br \/><script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script><br \/>\n<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/bengreenfieldlife.com\/article\/a-mans-guide-to-staying-sexually-faithful\/\">Source link <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>February 25, 2025 Last week, I posted about the sacredness of sex.\u00a0 So this week, I\u2019m inspired to continue with the topic of sex, namely, the potential cheapening of it. 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